You know that saying that we all use to convince ourselves that doing something we’re hesitant about is okay: But everyone is doing it. Maybe we should heed our mother’s pat response of “If everyone was jumping off a cliff, would you do that too?” I say this because for after years of hesitation, I… Continue reading 72 hours on OKCupid and I’m already exhausted
One Friday last year, near the end of the work day, I was sitting at my desk fixing my makeup when my office mate walked in catching me mid-lipstick application. "Where are you going?" "Meeting up with this guy." "A date?" "Oh no! I don't think it's a date. More business, I think." "Then why… Continue reading How to GUESS if someone’s interested
I have an ex who became a friend. Years later, we still hang out on a regular basis and on occasion, the question of "Why didn't we work out?" comes up in our conversation. His reason? I'm too independent. My reason? His issue with my independence. He says that he prefers a more submissive woman, and I'm not… Continue reading Dating and the independent woman
I love all things Sesame Street, as evidenced here and here, and though this isn't from them, as a supporter of all human rights, it still makes my heart smile. Macklemore And Ryan Lewis' Same Love Bert & Ernie Remix, y'all! Enjoy!
I remember your last goodbye. The day you told me that we should cease to be. My mind wanted to be brave and accept your wish without question, but my heart didn’t understand and forced my lips to ask you why. “It’s time,” you said. “We’ve outgrown what little we were and I don’t feel… Continue reading I don’t live in yesterdays because I know how they end
Many conversations on the topic of love with those who denounce it as if they've resisted its pull and beaten it down or are somehow above it but it's a form of denial because they do not want to admit that love has in fact beaten them left them battered and bruised with such severe… Continue reading In love in denial
If this is your first read, you can go back and start with The Last Time, continue with The First Time, and read a post-script in the After "The Last time." _____________________________________________________________________________________ I was at my Mom's early last week, and while she went in the kitchen, I stayed in the hallway and tried to take the… Continue reading The Middle: Secrets, disappointments & rhetorical questions